Motherhood, PostPartum Depression, Newmom life
Having a baby is stressful, it doesn’t matter how much you look forward to it or how much you love your child. Considering the new responsibilities, sleep deprivation, and the possible lack of time for yourself, it’s no surprise that lots of new moms feel as if they’ are on an emotional rollercoaster.

What is Postpartum Depression

The depression during the early days of childbirth is perfectly normal. But if you have symptoms that don’t go away after a few weeks or get worse, (possibly) you may be suffering from something called as  “Postpartum Depression” or PPD or Postnatal Depression. 

You just had a baby and you are basking in the glory of being a new mom. You expected to celebrate the arrival of your little “Mini You” with your friends and family. But, instead of celebrating the moment with your family, you feel like crying. Instead of the excitement, you feel exhausted and anxious.

 

You are not alone in Postpartum Depression

There are a lot of women who experience Postpartum Depression, or at least some of the symptoms immediately after childbirth, or within the initial few months. It is a feeling which is precipitated by the sudden hormonal change after delivery. The stress, isolation, sleep deprivation and fatigue, what makes it worse is it coming along with the happiest thing in your life. You might not be able to enjoy happiness and feeling more tearful, overwhelmed while being emotionally fragile.

Usually, this phase starts within the first couple of days after childbirth, peak around one week, and then taper off by the end of the second week postpartum.

Signs and symptoms of postpartum depression

In the beginning, postpartum depression may look like the normal baby blues. In fact, postpartum depression shares its symptoms with the baby blues, including mood swings, crying jags, low energy, sadness, insomnia and irritability between those in numerous non-stop breastfeeding sessions. however, the symptoms are more severe (possible chances of suicidal thoughts, not being able to care for your newborn) and long-lasting.

  • If you find that you are withdrawing from your partner or unable to bond well with the baby.
  • Or if Your anxiety is out of control, preventing you from a decent sleeping, even when your baby is asleep.
  • You find feelings of guilt or worthlessness overwhelming you
  • or You begin to develop thoughts which are preoccupied with death.

These are all the “Red flags” for postpartum depression.



Causes of postpartum depression

There’s no single reason why some new mothers develop symptoms of postpartum depression and while few others don’t, also few develop only a few symptoms, for the smaller duration while other may have a long duration depression. There is a number of interrelated causes and risk factors which are believed to contribute to the postpartum depression.

  • Hormonal changes

Right after childbirth, women experience a big drop in her (estrogen and progesterone) hormone levels. Even her thyroid levels can drop, which often leads to fatigue and depression. This rapid hormonal change—along with other changes in our body like -blood pressure, immune system and metabolism that she experience being a new mother, also triggers postpartum depression.

  • Physical changes. 

Giving birth also brings along numerous physical and emotional changes along with the baby. YA new mom may be dealing with physical pain due to her delivery, her stitches or abdomen pain, the difficulty of losing that extra baby weight, leave her insecure about her physical and sexual attractiveness.

  • Stress

The stress of taking care of the newborn can also take a toll. New mothers are often sleep deprived. In addition, you may feel overwhelmed and anxious about your ability to properly care for your baby. These adjustments can be particularly difficult if you’re a first-time mother who must get used to an entirely new identity.

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Coping with Postpartum depression

  1. Accept your feelings. – It is perfectly normal for the emotions of the new mom in you, to fluctuate. Parenting is not easy,  it is the hardest job in the world. All moms might feel angry at their kids even though they have an intense love for them. so it’s a mixed bag. accept it.
  2. Talk about your feelings.- Share your feelings with other fellow moms, consider joining a parenting support group through Facebook, Instagram. Parenting help groups provide an excellent platform to learn strategies that will help you to manage complex parenting issues. Moreover if nothing else, you will feel better that you are not alone in here 🙂
  3. Time management strategies. – Time management helps everyone, nothing feels as great as having time under our control. Though with young kids, you may not have an active timetable. But you may have a basic time schedule for yourself and follow it in a best possible way. An hour here or there would be fine, but try to stick to it. This shall help you with finishing your daily chores as well as bring your kids into routine later. It will also help you feel less burdened and in better control of your life. 
  4. Ask for Help. -Many women believe that, they would be a good mom if they do it all alone. But mind you, this job is too hectic and a long one. Do not hesitate to communicate your needs to your spouse/family. And don’t feel guilty stepping back a little to encourage them to help. You may also ask for help from your friends and family, or possibly hire a babysitter depending on your needs and your finances.
  5. Take time for yourself.- Anytime during the day, take some moments for yourself. Be it a few moments to have a cup of coffee in peace. Even reading the newspaper or a magazine can renew your energy. As they say, (whenever possible)- try to take a nap when your child does. Find a few minutes to exercise, though it might be hard to go to the gym, try some easy exercise at home or take a walk to a nearby park. Don’t forget any form of exercise is good as it releases those mood-lifting endorphins.

 

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117 thoughts on “Freedom from Mommy Blues- Postpartum Depression”

  1. The PPD can be really hard on new moms. You cant enjoy that your little one is here with you. I know of someone who had to get hospitalised for it. It helps when you have someone to talk to.

  2. I have been through this and it is really important to know about postpartum depression. More you are aware about it easier it would be for you to understand the symptoms. Thank you for sharing this.

  3. I’m glad people like you talk about this. I swear I had this issue after my second delivery and there weytimes when I was totally helpless!! The most important problem was that nobody knows that such a situation can happen in mommies and so everybody ignores!! I think the awareness has to be given to the whole family even before the delivery.

  4. You know mine went so bad that it took me over a year, meds , counseling and lot of family support to get out of it
    Only best part was I cud recognise it well in time

  5. It’s important that one should realize what you are feeling and you should speak to someone… Agree that one should take out tome for self pampering

  6. There is such a stigma around this topic that new moms rarely admit if by are going through this phase. I’m glad to see influencers like yourself talking about it so that women realize that they can come forward and seek help.

  7. Such a great post, Gunjan. It’s high time people start accepting depression as a common problem which can be treated with proper care. Many times, new moms don’t even know that they are suffering from Postpartum depression, this post will help them in understanding it better & taking the right course of action.

  8. I have also faced it after having my second child, but luckily i got out of it. You have explained it very nicely.
    And I absolutely loved reading your other blog posts as well.. It’s an Awesome space Tuggu n mommy..

  9. I agree there are a lot of changes and a lot is overwhelming. It is important to accept and ask for help. Trying to compare or doing everything on your own will only push you to the brink.

  10. ppd is so real and I think majority of new moms go through it. some mild and some severe. it is a lot to do with hormones and the sleepless nights. depending on the intensity every mom must seek the right help. and it’s also very important that people around her acknowledge it and recognise that it’s a reality

  11. I am so glad you took out the time to write this post. In our country, child birth is considered very normal and post partum depression is conveniently ignored. Thank you for writing this post, it will help many mothers and their families to detect the symptoms and seek remedies. #MyFriendAlexa #MayuraReads

  12. I had gone through the phase of having PPD with my firstborn. The circumstances were such that even living in a joint family I went into this depression. Why? Because there was no one to guide me through. No one to tell that yes things can go wrong and everybody is not always fit n fine after delivering the baby. Thankfully, my parents took me with them and I could come out of it before it was too late.
    Great post as always. #readbypreetispanorama for #MyFriendAlexa

    1. Not exactly normal though I feel awareness is important..I remember my gynac telling my hubby about it. So it helped me to some extent

  13. The first time I read about Postpartum depression was through another blog and that’s when I realised that things like this could happen. These are very helpful for people facing this and I hope they get to read up on this.

  14. I suffered from PPD after I had my second baby. I never saw it coming, thinking I knew a lot about parenting and managing the stress that comes with being a new Mom.

    I should have asked for help and stepped back but I tried to do it all alone. My stress levels skyrocketed and I was depressed for months.
    Looking back at that time, I wonder why the people around me did not realise what I was going through and support me more.

    I think it is equally important to educate people about PPD in terms of empathy and support system for someone who is suffering.

    1. So true..as a mom we might not feel it coming.. but we expect our near and dear ones to at least take note of the changes, help and support us.

  15. Unknowningly many women suffer from pastpartum depression and it can have severe affect on health if not diagnozed soon. This post is going to be helpful for people to educate themselves.

  16. Postpartum depression is so real and have seen few fighting with it for over the years as many people don’t understand that this could happen.

    1. That’s so true Pooja, I remember my gynac telling my hubby about it and hence he could guess why I was so stressed out and irritated. Glad he helped coz he was aware

  17. Agree with you completely… Its really important to take time out for yourself and reach out for help..involve your partner and the extended family….given that its not only a big physical change but also an emotional, psychological one. Like they say it takes a village to raise a child

  18. postpartum depression is very common and along with medicines family plays an important role to come out from this. thanks for sharing this informative article. #DelhibloggerReads #MyFriendAlexa

  19. Postpartum depression can get handled if we know the reasons , alarming signs and the ways to help ourselves. The very important point is speaking up. It’s nothing wrong in talking to someone we feel comfortable with.

    #MothersGurukulreads #Myfriendalexa

  20. Postpartum depression real… It affects a huge number of mothers all across the world… We should not shy away from it and get help as soon as possible .. Thanks for the detailed and informative post…

  21. A recent delivery and handling a new born can be tiresome. Plus, the hormonal changes and the body trying to find a new balance can really take a toll. I like the way you have written the post. It’s detailed and talks about the ways to overcome post partum depression. This is going to help many. Thanks for the share.

  22. Postpartum depression is still a myth. People don’t really believe what a mom goes through. Thanks writing about it

  23. I went through postpartum blues for a good 3-4 months too, and some of my thoughts were so scary or negative that I can’t bring myself to believe I went through the same. Wrote a post on it after too.

  24. Wonderful to see this topic explained so well.. When people talk of depression, they forget there are so many sub-divisions. And especially this one tends to get neglected. The mom often gets shamed top for not handling what so many other mom’s can which is a horribly misguided mindset

  25. A useful and well researched post. Postpartum depression is common and sadly does not get the attention it deserves. Hope your post helps create awareness and treatment.

  26. This is for real – the postpartum depression and mothers their families must take it seriously, This is the time when role of family comes into place. You have explained it so well. #MyFriendAlexa #gleefulreads

  27. So glad to read this. I suffered from post partum and my biggest concern was that no one really talked about it. There are only happy pictures of new mothers and everyone around you just assumes all is well. It helps to have a support system who understands and is there to listen..not to provide solutions but to just hear one out!

  28. I’m not a mommy but have seen Postpartum depression wreaking havoc the sanity of many new mothers around me. It breaks my heart to just think how generations after generations, mothers had to suffer through it and yet obliged to sweep it under the rug. Glad that the new-age mommies are breaking the taboo.

  29. That’s a good detailed post, Gunjan. Most mothers go through some or the other level of post partum depression, however, not all realise it. It’s a good thing post partum depression is being talked about openly and more and more mothers are being sensitized to the issue. Keep up the good work! 🙂

  30. I am sure a new mommy will go through the same.. lot of people I know personally, get stressed out all most stages of life . Some times even I follow time management strategy and trust me it works

  31. Every mom goes through post partum depression atleast once even for a short time. It’s really hard to get into right mindset and framework again but with right support and love, everything is possible. Great tips for new mums.

  32. I recently went out to seek a shrink to deal with my insomnia during the talks I realized that I was suffering from depression caused by my father’s death which was intensified by postpartum depression. The symtoms you mention Abt red flags that was me once. Thankfully never now. However this post helps uninfiruni mother’s out there. I hope it reaches multiple masses across the globe.

  33. I guess every other new mom goes through this depressing phase right after the birth of their baby. Your post is really detailed and covers all the important points which will be helpful for new parents to understand and overcome this phase.

  34. I have always thought about these things in details… I already suffer from anxiety disorders and depressive traits so it won’t be a surprise if I feel something like thus in future.. the tips you gave for overcoming it were really amazing!

  35. I have suffered from PPD and I know how tough it was to cope with it. Thanks for writing this. PPD is a silent killer and sadly most of the mothers live in denial or are not aware of it. #surreads #myfriendalexa #blogchatter

  36. The road to motherhood at times becomes too overwhelming with sudden change of responsibilities, the guilt feelings and so more. PPD needs more such talks openly.

  37. most all mom face this Postpartum depression , it is common but it is very to come out of this face. talking to people specially mommy friend relax you a lot when you feel you are not alone

  38. Thank you Gunjan for sharing this post. Ppd is finally getting the attention it deserves. Even the govt hospital where I work has posters and brochures talking about it , which is a great achievement in itself

  39. Juggling with new responsibilities and struggling with time management cause real stress. I personally experienced that too.

    1. True, juggling between various responsibilities is so difficult and we moms feel so guilty if can’t do anything well. Hope it went off quickly for you

    1. Hi Paresh, well it’s not a disease actually, Depression is more a state of mind. Due to lots of sudden changes post delivery women tend to feel depressed but that can be worked out with due help from others. There is no pills or any standard way to help over it.

  40. Postpartum depression always happen no matter how much you try to avoid it. I planned hard not be depressed after my second delivery but in vain. But talking to people really helped me

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