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My Parenting Mantra for Weaning #Momology


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We all know various age-old pearls of wisdom, around the right communication or and how it can enhance a relationship. Be it with your friends, relatives, Spouse, baby or a toddler. During the early developing age, kids are like sponges, they absorb each and everything they see around. They have curiosity and eagerness to learn and express. A child is innocent and believes in goodness. Always having good communication with a baby or a toddler benefits both the parent and the child. And telling them to be good, happy, and positive helps build a great foundation for a good human being. 

You may like to Read: Importance of a right communication with Child

What is this that I communicate with my baby?

My secret and most effective Parenting Mantra that comes handy every day is a Good long chat with my baby. He is a preschooler now, and has a lot to say and express, and a good communication time helps. I recently started this practice when he turned TWO, two months back. I was planning to wean him, but after all efforts, we were unable to drop our last feed of the day. Actually night. The night-time feed was difficult to drop. Well, this was my short term goal for this year 2019.

I never wanted to try any oil or ghee or balm to distract my son, breastfeeding was after all our special bond. I  always wanted a natural and comfortable way for both of us and what better than explaining him right. So, in all my trial and errors, we started this fun exercise, where we have a talk, even something silly. 

With a good talk, I do not mean the usual conversations happening the entire day.

This is apart from our daily activities. One thing we ensure every day is to talk about our day, our feeling. Anything that is happening around or he may wish to talk about, I basically listen and give him direction or answers as the case may be.

So, basically during the 24 hours, we spent at least an hour where he has my full attention. Normally this happens at the end of the day, when we are on the bed and trying to catch a night of sleep. We do whatever he likes. We basically start an activity and start connecting things. For example, asking him questions about his day? What did he do? Did he enjoy that? etc

And there are so many changes, for good!

I have noticed a huge change in his personality since we started this activity. He not only has a better vocabulary now but has started expressing himself well. It helps take out any frustration or sense of anger he might have with anything. Along with that, he feels calm and ready for a good sleep. He doesn’t need anything else to calm him down (read Mumma dudu). 

Yes, that the most important part of this exercise, that he is now weaned. Weaned happily, without any cries or pain.

After 2 years, 1 month and 11 days of breastfeeding, my son is now looking forward for ‘OUR time’ and not ‘Mumma dudu’ to have a Good Night Sleep!

That’s my #Momology or Parenting Mantra, What’s yours? Do let me know in comments below.

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This post is a part of Momology blog train hosted by  Thoughts by Geethica,  SlimexpectationsMummasaurus  and Truly Yours Roma and is sponsored by FirstCry Intellikit, Instacuppa, Diet Funda, Hugs n tugs, Tina Basu, Unorthodoxpeeps, Lotus Herbals baby and Shumee toys.

I would like to thank  Princy, who blogs at clanpedia.com for introducing me to this train and introduce Kapila, who blogs at Everylittlethinghappiness.com. Read their takes on their parenting mantras and what works for them the best. 

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28 thoughts on “My Parenting Mantra for Weaning #Momology

  • I am in favor of “communication” with your kid as you said, even if he or she is an infant. Obviously they won’t respond, but babies brain is like a sponge, it absorbs all the information he sees or hears, so conversing is vital for his development.

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  • Communication is the answer to a lot of problems & a way to come out of difficult situations. Even I weaned Nemit around 2 yr & 4 months but in our case instead of me talking to him, his dad played that role. He would spend the whole evening with Nemit, doing activities, going out to the park then reading books to distract him not to ask for mumma and I would stay out of sight. They both even slept in a separate room for 15 days, after which he gradually accepted the change in routine. Loved your post, Gunjan!

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    • Tuggu N Mommy

      Thank you Neha, that’s so cool of your hubby to actively take part in such decisions. Kudos to you

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  • Communicating with your child is very important. It increases your bond with the child and he/she look up to you for discussing any expression.M y 11 years old daughter is still fond of sleeping in my room to share lovely stories.
    Thank you for participating in #momology.

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  • Bed time is our favorite time too- reading, talking and tickling are what makes it special. #Momology

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  • I agree with you Gunjan, bedtime is probably the most honest time we can spend with our kids and give them undivided attention. 3 years old are a big chatterbox – they newly learn to express themselves and just don’t know where to stop. It’s the cutest phase. Enjoy with your little darling!

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  • You have had one inspiring and joyful journey till now. I myself practiced some of the things you mentioned in your post. And yes, good night time is also our we time where my kids have my full attention.

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    • Tuggu N Mommy

      Thank you Anupriya for your kind words, glad to know about your ‘we’ time

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  • Prerna Sinha

    I couldn’t agree more with you. Spending time with kids is really important. I’m definitely going to share this article with new moms

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  • What a lovely ritual to have with your child! Communication with one’s mother is the most positive and affirmative habit one can have. Even at this age, talking with my mother gives me joy and makes me feel like all is well with my world 🙂 and not having that conversation with her every day makes me feel like something is missing in my day!

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  • Giving child some close we time is really necessary.. We too give our son a complete we time at night during sleeping and doing the same activity like yours.. It really helps him to sleep well.

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  • Mrinal Kiran

    Communication is the best thing – both in the case of children as well as adults! Loved the post! Communicating with our kids helps them express everything and be at peace afterwards!

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  • Dropping night time feed was a struggle for me too as it was the most comforting zone for both of us. It was one of the most difficult decision and execution for me. After 3 years of breastfeeding, I weened him off completely yet I still miss those days.

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  • Khushboo

    That’s a very beautiful post. I agree Communication is very important with kids for both the parents and the kids.

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  • Jhilmil D Saha

    Yes, talking with them helps them grow a lot. It also helps in developing their speech and pronunciation. It also builds a strong bond between us. That’s a very effective communication skill.

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  • Talking to your kids will definitely help you to stronger your bond with your kids. I am doing this same thing with my nephew. I spend some time talking to him, sometimes I do play with him with his toys. This is the best way to build a bond with any kid.

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  • Absolutely agree with you, last hours of the busy day is too precious. I spend quality time with my daughter and ask her about her day and read stories. this has helped to improve our bond.

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  • The emotional connect between mother and child is so special. Nice to see how you achieved your objective through the right communication and with multiple other benefits too.

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  • True the last hour of the day is the most precious to us also. We take out atkeat 45minutes and chat around the days happenings in night , clubbed with stories.

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  • I so agree…Communication is so important with kids for parents and kids both. Even if they can’t speak, they definitely understand our language and learn a lot…

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  • Noor Anand Chawla

    Talking to our children is a fantastic way of bonding with them as well as encourage them to think independently. Hats off to you for feeding your child for a long period of time and for weaning him off gently. #momology

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  • The bond between a mom and child is special. A mom and child bonding like this will only make it more special. My girl is 4 months but we have our special ways to communicate

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  • Talking to kids even when they can’t talk goes a long way. It help them not just in vocabulary building but also in understanding that there is a way to express everything. When my daughter was very young we started with bedtime book reading or impromptu story sessions and it continues till date now when she is 10. Now it has changed into mommy-daughter time. I am doing the same thing with my son. Bedtime book reading ritual is something that he also enjoys a lot.
    #Momology

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    • Tuggu N Mommy

      True that Alpana, T loves his books and we have multiple book reading sessions during the day. And with this new “Talk to me” time, I can feel that he much calmer and he doesnt need mumma dudu to calm him down for a good sleep. Thanks for reading and dropping by #hugs

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